Divorce can be an emotionally challenging experience even if you are ready and waiting to start the next chapter of your life. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed, unappreciated, and even undesirable once that divorce petition has been filed. So, you think, what better way to boost my self-esteem than to rediscover romance with a new romantic partner? After all, your marriage is essentially over even if you don’t have a divorce decree in hand, right?
Not quite. Your marriage might be over in your heart, but it’s still official in the eyes of the law. If you decide to pursue a new romantic relationship, you may encounter several personal, legal, and financial difficulties that could impact the outcome of your case.
The Issue of “Adultery”
Unfortunately, filing for divorce does not equate to being divorced. Yes, Florida is a “no fault” divorce state, but adultery allegations can still influence the court’s determinations regarding child custody and visitation, spousal support, and even the division of your marital estate. Your spouse may have cheated on you hundreds of times in the past, but that was during your marriage, not your divorce. Any new relationship you start can – and likely will – be used against you in court.
A Personal Matter
No one likes to hear about their ex’s new relationship – especially if you’re technically still married. Your spouse may even try to “even the score” because they feel hurt and betrayed. For example, your spouse may refuse to make certain concessions that improve your future happiness or financial stability. Also, in a worst-case scenario, your soon-to-be ex may even overcomplicate the negotiation process to the point that it turns your case into a costly high-conflict divorce.
There is also another matter to consider. If you have young children, then your relationship with your ex isn’t truly over. The union may be dissolved, but you’re still bound by your marital settlement agreement. This means that you’re going to see your ex for every drop-off, pick-up, school event, etc. With this reality in mind, it’s best to try and foster a positive relationship with your ex, especially since you’re going to be dealing with a visitation schedule. A cordial relationship can benefit all members of your family in the future.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to hold off on romance forever. It’s just beneficial to wait until your divorce is finalized.
While separation from your spouse may be best for your emotional well-being, the same probably can’t be said for your kids. Your marriage has served as their support system for years, and now everything they know is going to change. They’re going to need your love and attention as they adapt to their new lives. If you have a new relationship, it’s only going to add to their confusion and uncertainty.
The Benefits of “Me Time”
Starting a new relationship is difficult, especially when you’re dealing with the emotional fallout of a divorce. You need time to make peace with the fact that your marriage is over, and that includes giving yourself space to process your fluctuating personal circumstances. Otherwise, you may carry emotional baggage from your marriage into your developing relationship. You deserve to be kind to yourself.
Consult with an Experienced Divorce Attorney
Contact the Clearwater divorce lawyers at K. Dean Kantaras, P.A. if you require legal representation for your divorce case. Our proactive legal team can guide you through each phase of this complicated and emotional legal journey. With our help, you can secure a beneficial marital settlement agreement that safeguards your quality of life.
Contact K. Dean Kantaras, P.A.at (727) 939-6113 to schedule a consultation.