Kantaras Law knows that deciding to end a marriage is one of life's most difficult decisions. While the emotional weight of this choice can feel overwhelming, taking practical steps before filing for divorce can help protect your interests and make the process smoother. Calling a trusted family law attorney is one of these steps, but all are equally important.
1. Evaluate your situation
Before proceeding with divorce, honestly evaluate whether reconciliation is possible. Sometimes professional guidance can help couples work through their issues, while other times it confirms that separation is the best path forward. Couples should consider alternatives like mediation or collaborative divorce, where both parties work with trained attorneys to resolve issues outside of court.
Also take time to reflect on what specifically has led to this point. Are these issues that could potentially be resolved with effort from both parties, or are they fundamental incompatibilities?
2. Understand Your Financial Situation/Budget
Take a hard look at your current financial status by listing all assets, debts, income, and expenses. This includes understanding what marital property exists (assets acquired during the marriage) versus separate property (assets owned before marriage or received as gifts or inheritance). Next, create a monthly budget by calculating your monthly living expenses and consider what your post-divorce budget might look like.
3. Gather and Organize Financial Documents
Financial transparency is essential in divorce proceedings. Start collecting important documents including tax returns from the past three to five years, bank statements, investment account statements, retirement account information, mortgage documents, credit card statements, and documentation of any debts.
Also gather records of valuable assets such as property deeds, vehicle titles, insurance policies, and appraisals of valuable items like jewelry or collectibles. If you own a business, compile business financial statements and tax returns.
4. Consider the Impact on Children
If you have children, their wellbeing should be a primary consideration. Think carefully about custody arrangements that would serve their best interests, considering factors like their ages, school situations, relationships with both parents, and emotional needs.
Research different custody arrangements and consider how you might co-parent effectively after divorce. Many states require parents to attend parenting classes during divorce proceedings. Thinking about these issues early can help you advocate for arrangements that truly serve your children's needs.
5. Consult with a Qualified Attorney
Speaking with a divorce attorney, such as the attorneys at Kantaras Law, early in the process is crucial, even if you're not ready to file immediately. Many attorneys offer initial consultations where you can learn about your rights, understand the divorce process in your state, and get realistic expectations about potential outcomes.
During this consultation, ask about different types of divorce proceedings available in your state. Understanding your options will help you choose the approach that best fits your circumstances.
6. Prepare Emotionally and Build Your Support Network
Divorce is emotionally challenging, and having proper support is crucial. Consider working with a therapist who specializes in divorce transitions to help you process your emotions and develop healthy coping strategies. Build a support network of friends, family members, and professionals. And don't neglect your physical health during this stressful time. Maintain regular exercise, eat well, and get adequate sleep.
Taking these steps before filing for divorce doesn't guarantee an easy process, but it can help ensure you're making informed decisions and protecting your interests. The goal isn't to delay the inevitable if divorce is truly the right choice, but rather to approach this major life transition with preparation, clarity, and realistic expectations.